All Thai girls lie
Well it is not that bad but when you stayed here for a few years you mind is so set on a high level to sort out all the different lies Thai girls are feeding you. If you brain not developed that feeling yet you probably are working as a permanent ATM now or fled Thailand for better feeding grounds. This is not only based on bar girls I have loads of friends and they have dated all sorts of girls from hi to low so but sadly most foreigners meet only bar girls.
Some people with good heart as the Thai girls say do not have this ability and believe or morph everything the Thai girl are telling them. That’s why it is so important for a Thai girl to find a guy with good heart “jai dee”. A bar girl can be a waitress after some month and a Go Go worked in a salon when you met. Reality gets very flexible with a good heart guy and they are easy to brain wash. If the good hearted guy has a shy and abnormal personality the Thai girl knows she hit the jackpot. Why do you think a good looking girl would marry a old, ugly and fat Thai or foreign man?
Dating a Thai girl
The lie in the normal conversation almost kills the normal dating in Thailand because your mind is fixed on detecting lies that you don’t enjoy the date.
She might tell you that she works in a hair salon
Your brain heard that 100 times before it is a cover for working freelance in discos.
She might tell you she not have a passport or never been abroad
Not this month you mind will reply
She might tell you she does not have a boyfriend
But maybe a lover, sponsor or husband your mind might reply
She might till you she is from Bangkok
Maybe you moved there last year your mind replies.
She might tell you she has a car
And you want me to pay the lease your mind replies
She tells you she owns her own business
Well freelance bar girl is also your own business your mind replies
She tells you she slept with a foreigner
Not today your mind replies
I am a student she tells you proudly
I love to see your student uniform and then your mind probably say yea you study English at some dump your sponsor paid.
They seldom lies about if they have a baby because it will show pretty fast but if they have a baby they are probably married in their home village as well.
Small lies get bigger
But all these small voices and traps in your mind will make a date very difficult and boring and if your mouth always says what your mind thinks you will have a very short date.
Even meeting a new girl in a disco is almost impossible because you will assume that all the girls that talk to you are hookers and the once not talking to you are normal girls but when you talk to them your mind will think they are lying.
Now the problem is that western and Thai culture have different rules for lie even small lies will blow up in proportion since your defense is so on alert.
There is no real solution to this problem your mind have jaded itself against disappointments’ and only a relationship with a Thai girl that do not lie (good luck with that) for a long time will soften your defense.
Dive in and enjoy the ride
The other option is just to dive in with no expectations and just take it for what it is, like the first time you came to Thailand. The girls were all virgins and the girl in the bar were just there to see her sister and she never dated a foreigner before. Maybe just say yes I believe you to everything she says and never questing anything, give her anything she wants expect the key to your wallet and heart.
Good times good times…